|Written by Rachel|
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It is quite common for people to see Asian women as being misogynists because they strongly favour femininity and are often considered to be submissive. This is a misconception. Misogynists hate women.
And Asian women are seldom submissive.
If animals could speak, the dog
would be a blundering outspoken fellow; but the cat would have the rare
grace of never saying a word too much.
Cats & dogs
The reasoning behind Asian femininity it is quite simple - think of men as being dogs and women as being cats...
This addresses the underlying fact that men and women are not the same.
Yes, women want equal pay, equal rights and equal opportunities, but women are not men. We want different things. We want to do things in different ways. We are not the same.
Just as a cat is not a dog...
A stronger cat
In Asia, a woman does not want to be a 'barking' cat. Rather, she wants to be a strong, assertive, confident cat. She lets the dogs bark.
By being the most female that she can be, a woman is being the strongest expression of herself.
A role defined by a man?
Some people would argue that being 'feminine' is to occupy a role defined by a man...
If an Asian woman's motive was to please men, this would of course be true. However, Asian women seek to please themselves, not men. They serve their own interests.
In Korea, femininity is taken to an almost extreme level. Women's skin care regimes are complex, comprehensive and effective. Hair is expertly cultivated. Fitness and health are valued.
Women dress in ultra-feminine ways. Being female is something to be proud of.
The barking cat
If a woman chooses to dress and behave like a man, isn't she showing shame in being a woman? A barking cat is trying to be a dog. Emulating male behaviour is devaluing the female.
It is saying that what men do and how they do it is better.
One danger in feminism lies with false logic. For example, a woman says that she wants equal opportunity and the end of sexual discrimination. This is sensible. Surely, all women want this?
Then the woman realises that women are under-represented in the workplace and advocates positive sexual discrimination in favour of women.
This is fundamentally sexist.
It is not a desire for equal opportunity. Rather, it is a call for women to replace men as the oppressor.
Should women be in charge?
Personally, I am all in favour of women being in charge. People enjoy power, being in control. Men have enjoyed this for eons. So, why not women?
Our syllabus is not seeking not to empower women - but to provide opportunities for women to empower themselves. A subtle yet significant difference?
Rachel wrote a Girl's Night self defence syllabus designed to offer a workshop in which women can discover how it feels to shed inhibitions, and embrace a more confident, self-assured expression of femaleness.
The training is quite rigorous and takes people out of their comfort zone.
Although most women are nervous at first, they rapidly realise that being a woman does not mean being weak or submissive.
Hosiery as a symbol of female power
Wearing hosiery is common throughout the world, but way more popular in Asia. The reasons are partly cultural, but also importantly: men don't wear tights. Tights are uniquely female.
When a woman wears hosiery she is asserting her femininity, her femaleness, her strength. She is showing pride in being female. In being a woman.
Hosiery also adds an element of mystery, of allure, of concealment. It enables the woman to decide what to show and what to hide. Thin tights in particular can be a powerful item of clothing.
Asian women support other women
A female misogynist denigrates other women. Asian women do the opposite. In the ideal world, Asian women would elevate all women to positions of power.
Not all women are submissive.
9 September 2008
Last updated 16 January 2021