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The false self | ||
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Tempering the
ego
A good martial arts class works on
the character of the student.
Ego is sublimated, arrogance is
dismissed.
The student learns to observe the rules
of the class, and studies the teachings
of the art.
Their own opinions,
expectations and feelings are not
important.
The i-Generation
Quashing the ego is hard for a
modern person to accept.
We are a pampered culture, used to instant
gratification.
This is the Age of
Narcissus.
Pride, greed, lust, envy, gluttony, wrath
and sloth
are treated as virtues.
Self-image
The biggest impediment facing a student is their own
self-image.
Consider: A person imagines themselves to be hard working,
committed and earnest...
In reality they prefer to chit-chat.
Their lack of progress will reflect the truth rather
than the idea they have of themselves.
An even larger self
Fearful of their own insignificance in a
world of billions, some people seek to project a
bigger self-image.
This may be a big dog (their canine avatar), a large car, a personalised
number plate, a large house, a fancy job title...
Various symbols of status and
prestige serve to
advertise their own importance and hide their fear.
These emblems of importance are often accompanied by an 'attitude'
cultivated to reflect the required image.
Identification
People like to identify with something larger than
themselves; typically it involves some sort of image or lifestyle statement.
They are a 'football fan', they are into politics,
religion, yoga or tai chi. By imbuing the external interest/pursuit with added significance, the
individual feels more important.
The message is blunt: this is important,
therefore I am important.
Arrogance is poison
The ego must be tempered.
An arrogant person cannot learn tai chi.
They never penetrate the depths of the art because their pride makes them
stupid.
They fail to see things clearly, and make assumptions based on
incomplete understanding.
Expert?
Only a person who has the benefit of hindsight can
offer comment on the tai chi.
Such an exponent would be expert level.
Fundamentally the marksman aims at himself.
(Eugen Herrigel)
Vanity
Vanity makes a student self-conscious and conceited.
Do not be impressed with yourself.
An integrated person has no need to show off, whereas an insecure person
requires an audience and approval.
Let go of your pride and your vanity.
Pride
People often are quite proud of what they have
studied or
accomplished.
They imagine that their past experience somehow translates into skill in
other disciplines.
Sometimes this may be the case.
At other times, it may prove to be the opposite.
Preconceptions and habits
often hinder progress.
A matter of degree
A good cure for egotism is the concept of 'degree'.
University education inclines the student to believe that a degree means
more than it does.
Literally speaking it is 1/360th of a circle.
The circle may represent a subject or even a facet of a subject. i.e. '20th
Century Literature'.
A degree is a slither of knowledge.
A masters degree is an even finer slither, a doctorate finer still and a
professorship is very limited.
Out of all the subjects in existence, what does
one degree
amount to?
It is a small amount of knowledge applied within a limited field of
expertise.
The same would apply to any area in which there are specialists who know a
lot about just one area.
Conceit
If somebody praises your tai chi, you should not feel pleased.
Consider instead the nature of the compliment.
A conceited person is inwardly smug and prideful, but a humble person knows
they still have far to go. When an inexperienced person compliments a
student, what does the
flattery mean?
Comparison
Comparison assumes that you are judging
like with like.
Yet this is seldom the case. Tai chi schools are apt to be quite different from one another.
The underlying principles being taught should be the same, but the
application and exploration of these will vary relative to the
ability
of the teacher.
Comparing tai chi to other martial arts is pointless.
We read the world wrong and say that it deceives us.
(Rabindranath Tagore)
Controlling
An arrogant person tends to be very controlling. They push, they
force, they manipulate, they
bully.
This attitude is not tai chi.
It stems from fear. From insecurity. From a realisation of personal
insignificance.
Tai chi way
Tai chi is all about flowing,
harmonising, yielding and
changing.
If something does not work, you do not push harder. You try
something else
or you walk away.
Self-consciousness
Self-consciousness will ruin your combat skill.
Your attention should be on the opponent. Instead, it is on
yourself. See the problem?
Is your instructor arrogant?
This is a tricky one because you have no real way of telling for sure.
The main means by which you can assess an instructor is by their capacity to
do the art.
If your teacher is soft,
powerful, insightful and offers a thought-provoking,
challenging syllabus, then maybe they are
skilled.
If they can teach abilities that are internal and
effective, maybe they do
know what they are doing.
Can you assess your
instructor?
Ultimately, a student cannot assess their instructor's ability in any
meaningful way.
An assessment would require knowledge and experience.
A student - by definition - possesses neither.
Being self-referential is stupid.
Conundrum
If the instructor is blocky, forceful and
external - they are clearly
unskilled at tai chi.
But if the instructor can use the art, then you have no way of gauging the
length, breadth and depth of their skill.
What can you see?
An instructor might well seem arrogant to you, but to a more seasoned
student they may seem to be remarkably modest and
understated.
The novice student simply sees what they want to
see.
What they are capable of seeing.
Only a fool would imagine that they are seeing the
entirety.
Dumb and dumber
The irony here is that 95% of all new starters
never get far enough into the syllabus to even work with our master. On what conceivable basis could they judge his
skill?
They are afforded only glimpses of the
man across the training hall.
What about you?
If you think that your instructor is arrogant, ask yourself whether or not
you are fit to make such an
assessment.
Maybe you are the arrogant one, and your perceptions of the world around you
are slewed by your ego.
Remember that tai chi is an internal martial art.
By its very nature it conceals the
truth.
The turkey
Martial arts classes attract all kinds of people.
The absolute worst is the person who trained a
martial art at some stage in their past and is seeking
recognition or
acknowledgement from the new teacher.
20 years may have passed by... The former martial artist wants to 'pow wow'
with the new instructor and share their 'insights'.
This is truly absurd; bordering on a
mental health issue.
The prayer of the monk is not perfect until he no longer recognises
himself or the fact that he is praying.
(St Anthony)
Page created
1 February 1996
Last updated
16 June 2023
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